Funerals

 Anyone regardless of whether they went to Church can have a church funeral. From the smallest service to a packed church we want to help you celebrate the life of your loved one. In this section of the website we go through what happens before during and after the funeral.

 

Before the Funeral

Planning a funeral service can seem daunting.  Sometimes loved ones have given specific instructions on what they would like included in a funeral service – it is always a great relief to know that there is one less thing to think about in the wake of the death of a family member.

If you can’t find any specific instructions from your loved one, we will always be able to help you and provide advice on hymns and readings and other parts of the service.  It is important that the service reflects something of the person who has died and we will help you make it as personal as possible.

A church minister will always be willing to help with a funeral service.  Neither you, nor the person who has died, need to be particularly religious in order for the church to help you at this time in your life.  Sometimes it is in the face of death that we discover that we would like some comfort of what life beyond the grave might be like and a funeral led by a church minister can help provide some answers. 

During the Funeral

Some people are anxious that a Church of England funeral has to be quite formal with little discretion on what can be included.  This is not true.  We will always include prayers and a Bible reading, but we will also want to include music that was special to the person who had died, tributes from friends if possible and other readings.   Always talk to the minister talking to the service to ask for particular things to be included – it is nearly always possible. 

At the heart of a funeral service is the need to give thanks for the person who has died, and also to provide hope to the family on what the future holds. A funeral should also provide space to grieve.  There can be a tendency nowadays to focus on celebration of a life, but a funeral is always sad – at the heart of the service is the loss of a person whom you love. In some funerals, that grief is particularly acute – perhaps after the death of a child or a young person, or when someone has committed suicide or died in tragic circumstances.   The church is always available to help and provide support to ensure that the funeral service is the best that it can be.